Joshua Graves
Exploring the Collision of Culture & Faith
May 15, 2013

 

 

A person falls into a large pit. It’s deep, intimidating, and scary. But the loneliness is the worst part. It’s one thing to go through adversity, it’s another thing to face adversity alone.

A physician walks by the person in the pit and says, “I have a prescription for your situation. You’ll be cured.”

A preacher approaches. “If you just knew the love of God. If you just knew the power of grace and healing. Oh, I can’t wait for you to experience the power of his life, death, and resurrection. ”

A theologian comes near. “Have you read Augustine? Martin Luther? Barbara Brown Taylor? They will cure you. Drink deeply from good books.”

A devout student of the Bible comes along. “Your problem is that you don’t know the scriptures well enough. You need to memorize the Bible, ingest, digest, consume . . . get those words downloaded onto your brain. Do it now! Get the word of God in you.”

Finally, after a long season of loneliness, shame, and pain, a stranger walks up to the pit and peers over noticing the person lying on the floor several feet below. “You’ve been in this pit for a long time, haven’t you.” Without saying another word, this stranger jumps in the pit. Grabs the hand of the tired, worn-out survivor . . . and says . . . “I’ve been in a pit before. I know what this is like. It’s hard but it’s not impossible. I will show you the way out. But first, let’s sit here for a while in silence.”

After some time, the new-found friend looks this person in the eye and boldly declares . . .

“You know…there are other paths without pits. Let me show you. Are you ready?”

You want to know why AA works? Look no further. Sometimes people need words and action. Sometimes people just need another person. Just one person.

 

May 14, 2013
I am fascinated with men and women of faith who live out said faith in the marketplace/public sphere  I love being around devoted disciples of Jesus who paint, write, teach, coach, engineer, innovate, dream. One of those friends is Klint Pleasant, the head coach of the Rochester College Men’s Basketball team. I’ve known Klint since I was a little boy. His brother was in my wedding. Klint’s father (my college coach) is one of the 3 most influential men in my life.  Klint has coached at every level, save the NBA. I worked for him in 2003-2004. I learned a great deal under his leadership. I thought I worked hard until I went to work for Klint.
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I asked him recently some pointed questions about faith and vocation.
1. How does Jesus’ kingdom (ethics, values, etc) impact your understanding of coaching

2. What surprises have resulted from allowing your faith to influence your coaching?
3. You’ve coached at every level (save the NBA) . . . does this approach translate to each level?
4. How are you seeing young men/women approach Jesus as they enter RC and your program?
5. Is it true that Josh Graves is the worst assistant coach you’ve ever had? That he once coached a game with no shoes and that he always tried to get you to go out to eat instead of working hard in the office?
1. To me, everything we do has the potential to be ministry, or at least we ought to strive for thinking (and living) that way.  So whether you are preaching on Sunday, cleaning a building during the night shift or coaching basketball, ones understanding of the Kingdom of God ought to shape how you go about doing that.  This is why coaching to me is so fun.  You have the opportunity everyday to try your best to live out what it means to participate in the Kingdom of God but get to do that alongside 18-22 year old young men from various backgrounds…what else could you ask for in a vocation!?  For example, after a loss you would not want your players to see you mistreating the folks coming into your locker room to clean up.  Instead (because we are doing all this through the lenses of Jesus) we not only do not mistreat that person, but we lend them a hand before we head out to the bus.  Now it becomes so much more than just coaching basketball.  Your true vocation is what you do as a child of God and coaching basketball becomes the fun specific thing you do within that.

And inevitably what happens (if you watch and listen carefully) is that you get a clearer understanding of the Kingdom of God from these young men.

2.  Every year I have coached (since 1998) there have been neat surprises.  And it has not mattered if I have been at a state school in the south, one of the most liberal state schools in the US (Kent State) or a small faith based school like Rochester College, there are always neat surprises.  Every new season I remind myself “Someone(s) on my team is open to going through a life changing transformation in terms of faith and values…which one is it?”  And when you ask that question, I really believe the Holy Spirit helps you see things you might have missed otherwise.  I take 5×7 head shots of my guys on the first day of school and I hang those pictures up around my office where the wall and ceiling meet and create a 360 degree border.  So everyday I have 16 young man looking at me!  That forces me to think about them and to pray for them.  And then that has an effect on how I see them later that day at practice.  Every year we have young men who are so open to change and living different.  We don’t help them make that change over night by throwing the Bible at them or requiring A’s on their Bible class tests (although that does really help).  Instead we get to know them.  I invite them into my home, I ask questions, I make them come by my office for a chat that cannot involve basketball or sports, I take them out to lunch.  And in time what we find is that they open up, they ask questions, they begin to trust you.  And hopefully they see you living in a way that looks attractive, and they want to know more about that.  When that happens the flood gates open.  I joke with them at that point and say “You were a Christian all along, you just did not know it.”

3. In my opinion, absolutely!  In fact, I think sometimes it happens in more concentrated ways when you’re in an environment that is not “Christian.”  I think it goes back to the relational approach and if your eyes are open to those meaningful entry points, it really doesn’t matter if the school has a roman numeral I or II or III after it, or NAIA or NJCAA or HS.  I think people make the mistake sometimes of thinking “If I were at a higher lever my ministry would expand and God will bless it all the more.”  I have never believed that.  There are plenty of seeds to sow wherever you are and whomever you are working with.  I can’t imagine God will increase anyone’s effectiveness if they are working with the Lebron James’ of the world or 8th graders at a middle school in Iowa.  In the end, it is God’s Kingdom, and all matter; so every effort, at every level, is potential for fruitful ministry.

4.  In my opinion, the young men and women that I get to be around these days are extremely authentic and ask great questions.  They are also impressionable.  I think they are looking for peace and happiness (maybe they see that their parents don’t have it) and are truly open.  That makes for fun ministry.  However, that also places a lot of responsibility on you because if you mess up, they are un-trusting.  I see kids seeing the value in “Being a good person and wanting to serve others”, but not necessarily wanting to be religious.  I understand that, and there was a time in my life I was probably like that too.  But once you see that kids are open to “good things” I sure think it makes sense to point them to Jesus.  Again, I think kids are less religious and at the same time practice the golden rule more then ever.  I just hope eventually people also fall in love with Jesus.  I guess that’s why relationships and credibility are so important to me.

5.  If I got a head NCAA D1 job today I would offer Coach Graves an asst position.  He is a “ten talent” guy and just had to choose which way to go, he chose formal ministry.  He is a great coach…because people gravitate towards him.  And if you can be an effective communicator and have a basic skill set to teach…you got the total package.  Josh had that.  But yes, he was unpleasant to be around when he forgot deodorant and shoes.

May 9, 2013

 

If you read this blog often (or occasionally), you know I like to tell stories, use images. I’m going to be a little more “scientific” today. Last night in our young adult panel discussion on hell, I presented some of the following thoughts. If you don’t know what Patrick Chappell is doing in Nashville/Brentwood with young adults, you need to. He’s partnering with the Spirit in some powerful ways.

 

One attempt to distill the logic funding my thoughts . . . Here we go. (The formatting is messed up for some reason. Trying to fix.)

  1. I believe in the reality/space of hell (not because I want to but) because Jesus believed in it. Jesus is perfect theology, so Jesus is where I begin. Jesus (specifically in Matthew and Luke) talks about the end, judgment, and hell numerous times. Because I’m committed to Scripture and the robust tradition of the church, I’m committed to the parts I understand and the parts I don’t understand; the parts I like and the parts I wish weren’t in there.
  2. But just because I believe in hell doesn’t mean I believe in hell like Jesus believed in hell. That is, I want to believe in the kind of hell Jesus believed in. I also want to believe in hell the way Jesus believed in it. I can’t find one gospel example in which Jesus uses hell against those on the “outside”–he uses hell against people like me with seminary education, influence, “Dr.” in front of their name, etc. I find that most surprising.
  3. I also want to believe in heaven because Jesus did and I want to believe in the kind of heaven Jesus believed in. That is, the restoration of all things (Matt. 19:28)
  4. And I think we should talk more about heaven than hell. I can’t prove why but I think the weight of the NT leans towards affirmation of the place and space history is moving: Towards God, the Cosmic Christ, the reign of the Spirit, the renewal of all things. Let’s lead with the possibility of God’s future. But let’s not talk about heaven so much we never talk about hell (as I’m prone to do).
  5. I don’t trust people who want hell to be more populated than heaven. Period.
  6. I don’t trust a narrative that is based mostly on fear. But, I do think every Christian should consider Melancholia. It’s an edgy movie. But it says so much about fear, individualism, beauty, destruction, morality, and death. Americans have to deal with this story.
  7. One key passage to bring into the discussion: 2 Peter 3:10-13 “the earth and all its works will be burned up” or “the earth and everything in it will be laid bare.” Judgment is purification not destruction. I think that’s Paul’s point in I Cor. 3:10-15.
  8. Dante’s Inferno ruined (mostly) everything.
  9. There are historical options the Christian Church offers per understanding “the life to come,”… specifically, what kind of hell we should believe in.
  • Eternal physical punishment: (Lazarus in Luke 16:19  and Revelation 20)
  • Temporary physical punishment: (Gehenna in places like Matthew 7, 10, 18, 25)
  • Annihilation. Those condemned cease to exist (Paul’s famous “wages of sin is death”—Rom. 6:23).
  • Nothing. When you die, that’s it. Enjoy the ride while it lasts (“eat, drink, and drink some more.”–Eccl. 8:15)
  • Everyone’s in: universalism. If you are not a universalist, which I’m not, you still have to admit that God is, in pure theory, a hopeful universalist—God desires for all persons to be reconciled to him. (2 Pet. 3:9; Phi 2:1-11).

 

  1. Some things I’m fairly certain about.
  • Believing in hell as Jesus did is as important as believing in hell altogether. Jesus mostly talked about hell against religious leaders. Almost exclusively. What’s going on there? Does it mean hell is only for religious people? Of course not . . . however, this is the starting place.
  • The real tragedy of hell is separation from God. We’ve never been totally separated from God. None of us.
  • Humility matters. Heaven and hell are not the Super Bowl of faith. The kingdom is. The kingdom as it is and the kingdom as it will be.
  • Judgment matters. Evil must be dealt with. Not just “their evil” but “my evil” too.
  • Our view of God drives everything. John 14:6 was good news before it became bad news.
  • It’s not our party. We don’t get to edit the guest list. Thank God that God’s mercy outweighs his justice. “Ohhhhhhhh, I get it, I see,” might be the first thing we say in the resurrection of the dead.
  • Into the mystery we travel. Holding Jesus’ nail-scarred hand all the way home.
  • Talk about heaven and hell is crazy talk for most of the Enlightened Western World. Deal with it.
May 7, 2013

 

 

 

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You can see Brad’s response to my tweet. But there was another response. One response that got me thinking . . .

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You might be aware of an interesting conversation in the blogging world over the last few weeks regarding “hot women” or “hot wives” . . . Check out THIS POST and THIS POST. I’ll give “gal” the benefit of the doubt. She (I’m assuming the author is a woman) is probably reading my tweet in light of many other tweets about gender inclusion, the role of men and women in society/the local church. She is acutely aware of the rift that exists between the Biblical picture of solidarity and community and the reality in the local church. I am for the full participation, integration, and acknowledgement of women and men into society, the church. Mutual sharing of gifts.  I think the teachings of Jesus and the rest of the NT demand it. I teach this. Write about it. Talk about it. This is a larger conversation in our culture and the church needs to get in front.

But here’s my problem.

In our search for this next chapter to become fully realized . . . it seems like we see the thing we want to see in all things.

Preachers do it. Writers do it. Artists do it.

My 3 year old thinks Princess Jasmine is beautiful. He hasn’t reduced her to an object.

As we take important steps, wrestling with people who don’t want to hear . . . we need to take a deep breath and . . . relax. Do some yoga. Drink some wine.

I can fully embrace the egalitarian views of the NT while, at the same time, acknowledge that Jasmine is beautiful. So can my 3 year old.

 

 

April 24, 2013

A dialog with Josh Ross per his new book, Scarred Faith.

I love Josh like a brother. I know you will love his work. Check it out.

1. Is writing as sexy as it appears? Are you a rock star?

Sexy? No. Healing and therapeutic? Yes. Rock star? Well…most people refer to me as the Will Smith of preaching.

My experience with writing has been that it is an invitation from God to get below the surface in order to wrestle with the beauty and chaos of life. In writing, the destination is celebrated, but it’s the journey that transforms the writer’s heart.

2. Why did you feel like you had to write this book?

I had to write because I was desperate for healing. I hit a wall in my faith a few years ago. I had intentionally placed myself in numerous environments where I ministered and walked alongside of the broken, downtrodden, vulnerable, and those who have been stripped of dignity or have grown up without any. My experiences left me with questions about God’s intervention in the world. I’ve never gone through seasons in which I’ve doubted the existence of God, but I have wrestled with God’s intervention.

Then, early 2010 came with a bang. Within a three week period of time we decided to sell our home and relocate into a blighted community and my sister tragically died after three week battle with Strep A and septic shock. A year went by before I got serious about the condition of my heart. If I didn’t take time to reflect and journal, I was afraid of the kind of disciple, pastor, husband, and dad I would become. So, I wrote.

3. Just how influential was I (Josh G.) in the writing of this book?

I know you ask this jokingly, but you were one of the primary voices pushing me to discover my writing voice over five years ago. It began with an article I wrote for New Wineskins. You’ve been a sounding board for many of my ideas; some of them came to life in this book and others were tossed into the abyss. It’s an honor to have trusted friends who are able to encourage and critique because we know we are working towards the same goal of partnering with God as he restores this world.

4. Dallas and Detroit? Go. Memphis and Nashville? Go.

Easy. Dallas and Memphis.

5. Some readers of my blog don’t have faith…what does this book have for them?

They may not have faith, but I’m pretty certain they have scars. Their wounds and scars may be physical, emotional, social, and/or psychological. We live in a scar-filled world. Scars are due to accidents, abandonment, betrayal, dysfunction, violence—just to name a few. We can join in a culture that often pumps millions of dollars into covering up the scars in our lives, or we can learn to be willing to tell the stories about our scars in a way that cultivates a healthier world.

For me, my heart has experienced healing and vitality because my faith tells me that Jesus gets the last word, death doesn’t win, and one day God will look evil in the face and say, “No more!” The breakthrough for me as I engaged in some of the challenges in Memphis and endured my own grief with my sister’s death was when I felt confident in the fact that God’s grace could hold me through any question and/or any emotion I was feeling towards God. He received me as I was, and I have lived to testify to the peace and healing I received through the struggle.

6. Is this your first and only book (are you “one and done”)? What else you got cooking?
I’m currently working on a book with Jonathan Storment on the restoration of all things. We are close to having a lengthy proposal to send to publishers. It’s taken longer than we thought because Jonathan has tried to write a few dozen props into the contract, but we’ve successfully been able to talk him down. Seriously, we are pumped about what this book could mean for the Restoration Movement and for the world.

7. How bad did break your ankles in the Otter Creek gym a few years ago after you tried to talk trash to me in front of my oldest son?

No comment.

April 23, 2013

Running has been a sanctuary for me. When I was done playing basketball in college, I needed an outlet . . . a space to get outside of my own head. I still play pick-up basketball and basketball will always (no matter what) be my first (sport) love. But, running . . . running is something all together different.

Last week, while on a trip to NYC and the greater Philadelphia area, I felt this urge to run and run for a long time. Luckily, I packed my running shoes otherwise I would have been tracking the hipster sections of Brooklyn in my dress shoes (or, as my 3 year old calls them . . . my “work shoes”). That would have been awesome.

I ran along the river that divides Brooklyn and Manhattan. I ran as far as I could until I got to the mammoth Brooklyn Bridge. Running this famous bridge kept me going for the duration of the rest of my trip. Gave me confidence to do some hard work, research, teaching, and reading. Gave me the bump I needed to keep doing what I’m doing.

Whenever someone says “I don’t have time to run/play hoops/workout” . . . I think “you are exactly the person who needs to because you can’t afford not to.”

Run. Walk. Swim. Get moving. It does something inside meI can’t explain. You know what I’m describing.

While I’ve run a marathon and competed in a triathlon, I don’t foresee doing either again. I like the pure experience of feet hitting pavement, mind telling me “Don’t do it…quit now”, me telling my mind “Shut up, you’re weak,” and then I keep putting my left foot in front of my right, and my right foot in front of left. And something grows with each step.

The more you run/walk/swim/move the more energy you have. Trust me, I know how to sit down and relax (ask Kara). But the days I go without running/walking/hooping are the days I get most fatigued and irritable.

If you don’t have energy it’s because you are not exerting energy. Another paradox to add the formidable list.

Some great quotes on running.

“A lot of people run a race to see who is fastest. I run to see who has the most guts, who can punish himself into exhausting pace, and then at the end, punish himself even more. Nobody is going to win a 5,000 meter race after running an easy 2 miles. Not with me. If I loose forcing the pace all the way, well, at least I can live with myself.”

“Many people shy away from hills. They make it easy on themselves, but that limits their improvement. The more you repeat something, the stronger you get.”
- Joe Catalano

” If the furnace is hot enough, anything will burn, even Big Macs.”
-John L. Parker

Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up.
It knows it must outrun the fastest lion or it will be killed.
Every morning in Africa, a lion wakes up.
It knows that it must run faster than the slowest gazelle, or it will starve.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re a lion or a gazelle
when the sun comes up you’d better be running.

(But, unless you’re a runner, you won’t understand.)

-Anon

April 17, 2013

For my 1,000th blog entry (I’ve been blogging since 2002) . . . some (hopefully life-giving) thoughts on writing, the creative process. A long post! I hope this inspires you to keep doing what you are doing. “A life given to art is never a life wasted.” –Macklemore

Writing isn’t what it is cracked up to be. It’s even better. That is, writing, whether it’s for your own personal pleasure, the ear of an audience, or book form, is hard work. There are no secrets. That’s the only secret. Writing well . . . that requires even more hard work. I’ve now written 3 books (Heaven on Earth and The Feast are published, Tearing Down the Walls soon to be published).

I’m not writing as an expert, a best-selling author, or even as a guru. I’m a minister in a local community of faith who loves to write. I love to write because I love to read. I am convinced, the older I get, the two can’t be separated. And yes, if you are wondering, I’m listening to classical music and drinking coffee as I write this.

Since writing my first bookThe Feast, I’ve had many conversations with friends and acquaintances about writing. Almost to a person, people respond, “Ohhh, I really want to write a book.” There are variations of this expression but the gist is the same: almost everyone has thought about what it might be like to write a book.

Some practical wisdom.

1. Let me just say that while it’s a great, formative process, writing won’t change your life.  The same personal issues you had before you publish your magnum opus will be there when the dust settles from the “citizen of the year” parade your hometown threw you after your book made the New York Times Best-Seller list.

2. Writing is hard work. It’s much more like building a house (though I’ve never done meaningful labor in this area) than having a moment of divine inspiration. In fact, the inspiration usually comes while you are working hard on something else.

3. Your goal should not be to “publish.” Your goal should be to write a great, relevant, insightful, moving book. Saying “I’m published” is about status, power, and prestige (even though, ironically, it won’t bring you a great deal of money unless your name is Lucado). We need more art (music, preaching, writing, song-writing that moves people; art that wakes people from their slumber). We need more art that is fitting to splendor of the creator of the universe.

4. Writing is an act of faith and discovery. It is a discipline that can shape your impressions and experiences of God as much as praying, serving the poor, or caring for the broken. You will encounter God and God’s creation in ways you can’t predict.

5. Writing is always merely an extension of your life. Stephen King, after enduring a hellish few years, moved his infamous writing desk from the center of his office to a corner to physically remind himself that his life life was more important than his writing life.

6. Writing is a communal experience. I have several friends who read what I’m writing. Friends who rarely, if ever, respond with “Josh, this chapter changed my life” but instead write things like “you can do better” or “this isn’t clear” or “this is not your best work.”

7. Writing is confession. Writing is about telling the truth as you see the truth. The writers who speak to me most clearly (e.g. Barbara Brown Taylor, Ian Cron, Buechner) do not write as authoritative experts (though they might actually be such). Rather, they write from a posture of humility; a “this-is-what-it-looks-like-from-my-perspective” voice. More as a guide than a talking head on cable news.

If you have never written but have always wanted to, go for it. What do you have to lose? If you love to write but feel stuck, life has a way of pulling you out of the ditch. Take a deep breath and go for a walk. If you are in the zone, writing chapters effortlessly, we can’t wait to see what God is going to do with your inspired words.

On The Creative Process

Whether it’s writing a book, crafting a story, preparing to teach a college class on spirituality, or piecing together a sermon . . . I pretty much go through the same routine (I am a creature of habit) each time I try and create something (usually a collection of words and sentences for print or an audience). I think this simple process works in all disciplines (writing, photography, painting, design, etc.).

1. REFLECTION. I used to do this last but now I do this first. In the first movement of the creative process, I listen to what God is doing in my life, how different humans around me have provided a glimpse of the divine. I am learning to trust the instincts, voices, and stories inside. This part usually requires a lot of yellow legal pad. I write quotes, stories, Scripture references . . . it just needs to get out.

2. STUDY. After I’ve purged myself of all of my memories and ideas, I get my hands on as many resources (books, DVD’s, articles, journal entries, and blogs) as possible. I literally immerse myself in what dead and living friends have written on the particular project I happen to be working on. For instance, I recently preached about preaching at the Nashville ZOE Conference. I took that prep time as an opportunity to read some of the classic sermons from Lischer’s The Company of Preachers.

3. MEDITATE. It’s critical that following self-reflection and disciplined study, I need to create space for all of this material to solidify. Usually, I go for a long walk, cut the grass, watch baseball, take a nap (though Lucas makes that almost impossible), or I put my running shoes on and take off. Some of the most important connections we make in life happen at a deep level. That is, some of the moments of revelation come when we are not thinking about anything profound in particular. We’re taught to call this the sub conscience. After we’ve reflected and studied, the mind, soul, and heart need time to get into a cadence of coherence.

4. CREATE. The hardest part for sure. The part many procrastinate until the last possible hour. This is the moment where the skin is placed on top of the skeleton, walls are placed over the frame. Up to this point, all I have are a bunch of stories, insights and sound-bytes. First, I put at the top of the page: “This teaching/sermon/essay/chapter is about ___________.” This will be my compass. Second,I always write an outline with transition sentences (the hardest thing to do in writing). After a break, I put the outline next to my computer and I type, one letter at a time the words I think I’ve been given. If you want to read my thoughts on how this connects with oral communication, check this out.

Sometimes the words come with little effort. Most times, I have to fight through cell phone calls, e-mail notifications, SportsCenter cravings, the voice inside all of us that says, “But you are forgetting to ____.”

This is what I do, day after day, week after week. And I absolutely love it.

Donald Miller weighs in . . .

Donald Miller is back. I don’t know where he went. What he was doing. But he’s back. Back as in Blue-Like-Jazz-Back. In A Million Miles in a Thousand Years Miller takes the reader through the journey of writing a script based upon his life (with some of the key stories from Blue Like Jazz). The writing process causes him to reflect upon the way in which a “great life shares the same characteristics as a great novel.”

“I like the part of the Bible that talks about God speaking the world into existence, as though everything we see and feel were sentences from his mouth, all the wet world of his spit. I feel written. My skin feels written, and my desires feel written. My sexuality was a word spoken by God, that I would be male, and I would have brown hair and brown eyes and come from a womb. It feels literary, doesn’t it, as if we are characters in books . . . You call it God or a conscience, or you can dismiss it as that intuitive knowing we all have as human beings, as living storytellers; but there is a knowing I feel guides me toward better stories, toward being a better character. I believe there is a writer outside ourselves, plotting a better story for us, interacting with us, even, and whispering a better story into our consciousness,” (86).

On the “inciting incident” (or “ruptures in the narrative” as I’ve been taught in literary circles)–”. . . Fear isn’t only a guide to keep us safe; it’s also a manipulative emotion that can trick us into living a boring life . . . James Scott Bell says an inciting incident is a doorway through which the protagonist cannot return. I didn’t know I was doing it at the time, but I had certainly walked  through a doorway. I was an overweight, out-of-shape guy who wanted to get into shape and date a specific girl. I’d walked through a doorway that would force me both to get into shape and to interact with her. I suppose I didn’t have to get into shape, but if I didn’t, the story would be a tragedy. And nobody wants to live a tragedy,” (110).

 

 

Stephen King, the legend, weighs in on the craft and science of writing.

Here are some highlights from Stephen King’s On Writing. I highly recommend this book. In addition, if you are interestedin the craft of writing, you might like this bookthis book, and this book.

p.50 …an original story I called “The Invasion of the Star-Creatures.” I kept hearing Miss Hisler asking why I wanted to waste my talent, why I wanted to waste my time, why I wanted to write junk.

p.57 [The editor said] when you write a story, you’re telling yourself a story. When you rewrite, your main job is taking out all the things that are NOT the story.

p.67 I did as she suggested, entering the College of Education at UMO and emerging four years later with a teacher’s certificate…sort of like a golden retriever emerging from a pond with a dead duck in its jaws.

p.77 Sometimes you have to go on when you don’t feel like it, and sometimes you’re doing good work when it feels like all you’re managing is to shovel *&%$ from a sitting position.

p.101 It starts with this: put your desk in the corner, and every time you sit down there to write, remind yourself why it isn’t in the middle of the room. Life isn’t a support-system for art. It’s the other way around.

p.106 Let me say it again: you must not come lightly to the blank page.

p.118 Remember that the basic rule of vocabulary is use the first word that comes to your mind, if it is appropriate and colorful.

p.122 You should avoid the passive tense. You can find the same advice in The Elements of Style. The timid fellow writes “The meeting will be held at seven o’clock.” Purge this quisling thought! Put that meeting in charge. Write “The meeting’s at seven.” There, by God! don’t you feel better?

p.124 The adverb is not your friend.

p.128 Good writing is often about letting go of fear and affectation. Affectation itself, beginning with the need to define some sorts of writing as “good” and other sorts as “bad,” is fearful behavior.

p.145 If you want to be a writer, you must do two things above all others: read a lot and write a lot. There’s no way around these two things that I’m aware of, no shortcut.

p.150 Constant reading will pull you into a place (a mind-set, if you like the phrase) where you can write eagerly and without self-consciousness.

p.153 For me, not working is the real work. When I’m writing, it’s all the playground, and the worst three hours I ever spent there were still pretty damned good.

p.154 The combination of a healthy body and a stable relationship with a self-reliant woman who takes zero *&^% from me or anyone else has made the continuity of my working life possible. And I believe the converse is also true: that my writing and the pleasure I take in it has contributed to the stability of my health and my home life.

p.164 I have never demanded of a set of characters that they do things my way. On the contrary, I want them to do things their way.

p.176 It’s also important to remember that it’s not about the setting, anyway–it’s about the story, and it’s always about the story.

p.208 Once your basic story is on paper, you need to think about what it means and enrich your following drafts with your conclusions. To do less is to rob your work (and eventually your readers) of the vision that makes each tale you write uniquely your own.

p.212 Take your manuscript out of the drawer. If it looks like an alien relic bought at a junk-shop or yard sale where you can hardly remember stopping, you’re ready. Read as if it’s someone else’s work. “It’s always easier to murder someoneelse’s darlings than it is to kill your own.”

p.215 Every writer has an ideal reader. “What will this person think when he/she will read this part?” For me that person is Tabitha.

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